Fate: The Lie Behind A Reality

by dark_destroyer

Being only sixteen I have my whole life ahead of me. It was on this assumption that I decided to look forward and “decide where life was going to take me”. Then I realised that that sentence did not make sense. Surely if life would be taking me somewhere I would not be making conscious decisions?

People seem to have four main ideas about fate. They are as follows:

1) We follow a predetermined course and everything in our life has been decided for us.
2) We have a “final destination” fate, where we can make our own decisions but will eventually end up with the same finish to life.
3) Each situation we arrive at is fate but then we are allowed to make our own decisions on which way to go
4) There is no such thing as fate, only coincidence.

So let us look at these four one at a time. The first option is, in essence, a bit of a life let down. After all, what is the point in living if you are not in actual fact living your own life? The hardest thing at this point is not to get fate confused with religion. One might be inclined to say that our destiny is being controlled by a super natural being. This is not fate; it is instead belief in an afterlife and not the life process that we have on earth. So with that in mind you would have to have a positive mental attitude in life to cope with this idea as fate. After all is it fate for people to be born in to slavery? Is it fate to be abused by family members as a child? Is it fate not to have a single chance in life? No. It is circumstance that these people are born in to.

The second choice is popular with the people I know. A final destination place that nobody knows of, but will inevitably happen. I myself used to believe in this theory and thought of it as a masterpiece, an illusion of death so that we need not be afraid of it. However, then comes the feeling of control. Surely if we have a final fate then we must also have other small bits of fate along the way? This therefore contradicts itself and in doing so brings us back to the first theory. The second point about this theory is differences in opinion. It was well documented that the suicide bombers of 7/11 believed it was their fate to die in that nature, ergo believers of a final fate should not be angry with them, as this course had already been set for them. Human emotion intervenes however, and this so-called “fate” is then known as “pure evil”. It appears so far then that death and birth must not be a part of fate after all.

We then come to the third theory. This is by far the most popular and is what most people talk of when they say fate. In some respects this idea is a little like a final destination fate looped over and over, but with small differences in each ending. If we arrive at a point, or points in our life when we need to make decisions, many people will call this fate. This can tie into people (including those who may be “the one”), job opportunities and even day-to-day tasks. Your dependence upon fate will decide which tasks are fate and which are not. In coming to this conclusion are we then saying that fate differs for each person? Are we deciding that each person holds different views of fate and decisions that we make? The simple answer is yes, fate does differ. That by itself is understandable, but when we come to the true meaning of fate and compare its different types, we are able to see that it is indeed the conscious mind that makes the decision about fate. So indeed we have appeared to hit a dead end. Fate makes sure we choose the right things, yet it is by choice that we create fate. We are therefore stuck in a never-ending circle.

Last but not least we will look at the main disbelief for fate. Nothing is impossible. As simple as that. Some people believe that meeting the right person was fate. As harsh as this may sound that is total rubbish. If you take the number of people that you will meet and talk to in your lifetime it is a very large number indeed. It is only chance that one of these people is perfect for you. No matter what the odds are, whether 2:1 or 6000000:1, there is still the chance of it happening.

Fate; A be all and end all? Or a stupid fantasy created by human thinking? Only you can decide that for yourself.

-DD-