The Law as a Gender Weapon of Violence Against Men and Children
by Richard Hewitt
The Law as a Gender Weapon of Violence Against Men and Children
by Richard Hewitt
I have very acute concerns over the endemic level of child abuse and gender
violence in our society. I have witnesses what I consider to be child abuse
with intent to provoke a spouse. I have seen a child with bleeding feet due
to ill-fitting shoes being sent to the transfer point for access. I have seen
a child on a cold autumn day, badly in need of bathing, dressed only in a
flimsy summer dress, with no coat, sweater, or change of clothing for the
weekend access time with her father.
I have seen the anger and desperation, a father feels when his child is
abused, and he is bound helpless by our courts and agencies, while his child
suffers. I am outraged that a mother and her current husband could do this
with impunity, in spite of their six-figure income; for in this case there is
no excuse of poverty.
I have seen the death of a child as a result of substance abuse and addiction
that began in a broken home. I also know that the father of this child was
powerless to stop the exposure of his children to substance abuse. Due to the
gender bias of a well known children's agency and their unshakable belief that
a woman could not harm her children by her lifestyle, a child died.
I have had a wife, a mother who was determined to throw her adolescent son out
of the home when caught shoplifting. She screamed at him, "you have to live
on the street, you have been nothing but trouble since you were born, and you
will never be part of the family again." I was able to successfully intervene
in spite of my wife's objections, and get the child into a group home for
adolescent and teen age boys. That stepson of mine has grown to be the most
honest, reponsible, kind and gentle young man I have ever known. I am proud
that I was able to fulfill a father's role by employing him, at first on a
part time basis while he was in school and living in a group home, and then
full time for several years after he graduated. Today this young man as an
alumnae of this group home, presented the keynote speech at its anniversary
and reunion.
I have felt the pain of the tens of thousands of men and their children who
are being exploited by the gender biases existing in our society today. We
must find a better and more humane way of dealing with family breakdowns,
rather than this adversarial system of law and gender biased agencies that
voraciously feed on our pain and destroy our childrens' heritage.
Our present system is not working! I for one do not want this to continue for
the sake of my granchildren and generations yet unborn.
Our agencies do not always protect the vulerable, instead they use them to
protect their own turf and justify their existence in a bureaucratic numbers
game.
The historical reaction of all civilizations to injustice is outrage, revolt,
civil disobedience, and contempt for the laws. The justice system, simply
put, is not working for most Canadians. The only historical result of narrow
self interest groups that have gained power is: Outrage, Alienation, and
Violence!
I recognize the anger of others, and my personal anger. I try to channel this
emotion in constructive ways for, I have seen far too much violence both
physical and psychological, in my lifetime.
I have developed contempt for, and outrage at the violence that I have been
subjected to. Unfortunately I see this as a way of life that we have allowed
to evolve in our society.
My dreams of "A Just Society" have been soiled by the base instincts that have
destroyed all civilizations: Greed and the lust for Power.
It is well accepted that the ability to feel outrage is indeed human. However
it is also well understood that we cannot in our human condition, be
brutalized and not think thoughts of revenge towards those who do harm to us
or our loved ones.
I am also aware that those who live in a brutal environment are inevitably
emotionally scarred, and often committ the same brutality that was committed
against them -- for the sake of our children we cannot let this happen.
Events that have transpired over the last four years have cretaed for me a
sense of incredible outrage that such instituionalized victimization can be
forced on us in today's society. I am outraged that we as individuals are
left powerless to cope with marriage in any sane and sensible way. I realize
my anger has to be focused on the incredible lack of concern by our elected
representatives, and it must be especially focused on the greed of the legal
profession. There is a very evident lack of concern for those who have been
manipulated and have become victims of this rapacious system of family law and
community agencies that exists today.
I have always believed in, and supported feminist concerns for equality of
opportunity, and before the law. However today, our laws and judicial system
are at the root of a lot of violence. Most certainly the system is not
helping those who are in need. False accusations, legal advice that only
escalates conflict, create unrealistic expectations, and promote greed, are in
control. They are inflicting the violence of a life of poverty and lost
opportunity upon our children.
I believe strongly in our Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms. This
charter sadly, largely ignored, and laughed at by law enforcement officers and
radical groups unless the applications suit their perverted purposes.
The pain in the lives of parental despair, the ever increasing number of
children that are reared in the poisoned family environment of today, deprived
of a caring parent, makes me very angry.
I am angry that many men I have met have been charged, convicted, and have a
criminal record based on contrived and perjured testimony which is actively
counselled by many radical feminist agencies.
I am angry about the broken homes that could have been saved, in which the
children could have known both parents.
I am angry at institutionalized sexist policy that designates men as the
initators and perpetrators of domestic violence. This is evident in The
Ontario Ministry of the Attorney General directive of Police Agency policy to
remove the male from the domicile without proof of any act committed by them;
Even self defence of the man in case of assault by the woman, policy still
dictates that the male is to be removed from the home.
I have been personally assaulted by a weapon on my own property and have
hospital emergency records to prove physical trauma occurred. This assault
with an automobile was witnessed by a neighbour and yet - Police, and the
Justice of the Peace have refused to accept the laying of a charge to date.
The only reponse to my lawyer to date from the Justice of the Peace is that
"she", "was concerned that the laying of such a serious charge would have a
profound impact on the woman's life." This assault occurred, the sworn
statements of both myself, a witness, and medical evidence of a resultant
trauma seem to be insufficient to proceed with the criminal process. Yet if i
or any other man had committed an assault with a weapon, we would by now be
enjoying an enforced holiday of incarceration, at the taxpayers expense, and
in my case my employees would be unemployed.
I support the fact that shelter for children is a concern in many cases.
However, I fail to understand, why is the man assumed as the aggressor when
studies show that assaults by women in the home are equal to those committed
by men? Why is the female aggressor not removed and the children left in the
care of the father?
I find it repugnant that we have many excellent clean and public funded
shelters and emergency counselling services for women but, virtually none for
men.
Tens of thousands of men are living in a state of prpetual fear of being
falsely labelled. All a woman has to do is point a finger, and make an
accusation, then truth and principles of fundamental justice are not even
recognized. Only the existing policy on wife assault is considered. There is
no policy on husband assault. Indeed for men living in Canada today is
comparable to "The Trial" by Kafka. It creates a state of constant paranoia
that destroys the soul and brutalizes all of society.
We have social welfare, legal and justice systems that thrive on creating
conflict and violence. It is clearly in the interest of those working in
family law and social services agencies to create a need, and even a waiting
list for their services.
I support wholehartedly anything that will reduce violence and provide support
for the genuine victims of violence. With the issue of violence there seems
to be a suppression of studies that show men are equally subjected to sposal
violence.
I am sick of the current vogue of male bashing that is endemic. This epidemic
of male bashing is a vicious form of psychological violence that contributes
to, promotes, and perpetuates the problem of physical violence in our society.
Sexism in any form is no different than racism! Such vitriol only sows
mistrust and hatred and, inevitably a totalitarian state as we are seeing,
that further diminishes life, liberty, and security of person.
Why do we not have compulsory mediation instead of litigation, and immediate
emergency councelling services for both parties available in domestic
disputes? The answer is imple, the entire system of the legal profession,
politicians, and countless civil servants and social workers would have their
job security threatened.
I am angry that my children, stepchildren and grandchildren have been deprived
of the rightful inheritance that we have strived so hard to attain.
I feel contempt for those who wrk and voraciously feed in this industry that
devours our motivation to realize the dreams of a better life and our
children's future. This present system ultimately creates a terible
dependancy on social services.
Hopefully by the focus of my anger I will be able to help others avoid this
voracious monster of Family Law and sexism of any sort. I hope to contribute
to the evolution of a kinder and more humane society that has compassion for
its members rather than the feeding frenzy and institutionalized sexist hatred
and totalitarianism that exists today.
Social change has to start somewhere. Let it begin here, today, with all of
us saying NO MORE!
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