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Love and Hate [PAPER]
On Love and Hate:
Historically, extremes in emotion and reason do not
often mix. I am thus cautious of attempting to comb through
love or hate with reason. My recourses are two: to (yes,
using what reason I have) separate intellectual thought from
emotion; and to apply as little reason as possible without
ceasing to write.
It seems reasonable (sorry) to assume that emotion and
reason have nothing to do with each other. It also seems
very likely that one cannot exist with the other. They seem
capable of cohabitation within a single person, but fall upon
differing objects. Are not the things we love or hate not
the things we understand?
Hate:
Hate is one of our reactions to a lack of understanding.
We cannot hate that which we understand. Hate is our
frustration at failure to comprehend. The more we understand
something hated, the more our hatred becomes sadness or pity,
or deepens to a hatred of that which caused whatever it was
that we did not understand. In the latter case, the hatred
may increase with understanding, but the object of the hatred
has shifted.
We are given a wide range of paths for dealing with our
hatred, from the altruistic to the reactionary. The
altruists, wishing peace without societal discord, tell us to
repress our hatred and replace it with love, a path bound
eventually for emotive explosion and breakdown. The
diametric path gives us a series of smaller explosions with
promise of emotional stability as a result of constant
expulsion of malefic urges.
Neither of these, or combinations thereof, are terribly
productive ways in which to deal with hate, as even the
moderate paths deal with the hatred only superficially and
inefficiently. I see the only way around hatred being
understanding. Upon comprehension of the object of hatred,
one is either better equipped for the constructive removal of
said object, cooly and rationally; or no longer desirous of
the removal. Either outcome is fully satisfying
altruistically. In the latter case, one must accept
simultaneously a bit of humility for having been mistaken as
well as a bit of pride for having become a bit more correct.
This leaves one emotionally balanced. The hatred is not
repressed, but transformed. The same emotional energy is
simply working in a different direction. Upon the removal of
the object, the hatred is put to work in a positive manner
instead of simply lashing out half-cocked and possibly
incorrectly.
The process is simply that of questioning: "why does
this specific situation exist?", and "what can be done to
cause this situation not to exist?". Realize that just as
for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction;
for every reaction, there is an equal and opposite cause; and
that nothing is simply either cause or effect, but everything
is both.
Love:
Ask the same questions, hope not to find answers, and
don't be disappointed when you do. If you find understanding
of the object of love, it will no longer be an object of
love, as love, similarly to hate, is a reaction to a lack of
understanding. The faster you find answers, the more
superficial the emotion. When answers come in the form of
more questions, you have a true indication of the intensity
and thoroughness of the emotion, and there is more likelyhood
that when love finally disappears, through comprehension, it
will be replaced with respect and admiration which you will
find very easy to tell yourself is the same thing.
I am sorry if it seems I have advised you to processes
that diminish or destroy emotions; I have not. Emotions,
contrary to poetic assumption, are not permanent, but
transitory (although it is certainly not impossible for them
to remain for durations exceeding a human lifetime). I
believe that the proper thing to do with emotions is to
consummate them, not to either prolong or shorten their
duration, for one is stagnation and the other repression.
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